Friday, November 20, 2009

Four Things That Matter Most.......

A few things about me you may not know already......A busy Mom who raises her family and volunteers at the elementary school, A Mom who also watches a couple of other Kiddos after school, A catering manager when the need arises, And most of all a Hospice Volunteer.

Yes, I volunteer for Hospice. I make weekly visits to my older friends, and for some who may not have any family members left. I also scrapbook their lives in a "Chart of Life". Of course I know that they are at the end of their life, but still, it can make it hard to lose a friend. It must be very hard for a loved one to lose someone after they have struggled with going through what it takes to get them through their illness. Over the summer I read this wonderful book that will help those loved ones. In fact, it is great for anyone. It is a easy read....I read it in a day!

Here is my review:

Four simple phrases — "Please forgive me," "I forgive you," "Thank you," and "I love you" — carry enormous power. In many ways, they contain the most powerful words in our language. These four phrases provide us with a clear path to emotional wellness; they guide us through the thickets of interpersonal difficulties to a conscious way of living that is full of integrity and grace.

In The Four Things That Matter Most, Dr. Ira Byock, an international leader in palliative care, teaches us how to practice these life-affirming words in our day-to-day lives. Too often we assume that the people we love really know we love them. Dr. Byock reveals the value of stating the obvious and provides insights into how we burden ourselves by hanging on to old grudges unconsciously and unnecessarily. He shows us how to avoid living with those awkward silences and uncomfortable issues that distance us from the people we love and erode our sense of well-being and joy. His insights and stories help us to forgive, appreciate, love, and celebrate one another more fully.

The inspiring stories in The Four Things That Matter Most demonstrate the usefulness of the Four Things in a wide range of life situations. They also show that a degree of emotional healing is always possible and that we can experience a sense of wholeness even in the wake of family strife, personal tragedy, divorce, or in the face of death. With practical wisdom and spiritual punch, The Four Things That Matter Most gives us the language and guidance to honor and experience what really matters most in our lives every day.

Please forgive me.

I forgive you.

Thank you.

I love you

3 Others Say::

lindalou said...

Great post. I've found out much more about Hospice this year as my father is now under there care. I think many people think Hospice is just for terminal cancer type patients, but they are much more. My father doesn't have any terminal disease, he's just getting older and losing more functions. They been amazing support for my mother. Thank you for being one of their volunteers. It's a kindness I can truly appreciate.

suburbangrandma said...

Suzy, thank you for the great post. You are a beautiful person inside and out. God Bless You!!!
I did lots of volunteer work myself, and understand what it takes to be a volunteer. My hat's off to you!!!

Carey's Farmhouse Kitchen said...

This is such a wonderful post! I agree with those 4 statements. It's what you want to hear. I will be checking into that book.